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'Time Heals All Wounds:' Is There Any Truth to This?

Morgan Mandriota is a freelance writer, the founder of Highly Untamed, and an expert writer at Verywell Mind.

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Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments.

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Does Time Heal All Wounds?

  • Time’s Role In Healing

What Can Prevent Healing?

How to promote healing with time.

  • Techniques to Speed Up the Recovery Process

If you've experienced loss, disappointment, heartbreak, or trauma, you've had well-meaning people say that the pain will fade with time. Does time really heal all wounds, as the popular saying goes?

Time is certainly an important factor when it comes to healing . Although it may take away some of the pain, sorrow, or other negative emotions associated with an experience, time on its own is not a healer.  

At a Glance

Time can help make things hurt less, but it isn't a healer on its own. Whether you are going through a breakup , grieving the loss of a loved one , or going through something else emotionally taxing, plenty of other factors are involved in the healing process. In this article, learn why the cliché that "time heals all wounds" doesn't tell the whole story, as well as time’s true role in healing, other factors involved, and where you can focus your efforts to speed up the healing process.

While the saying suggests that grief and pain tend to lessen with time, evidence suggests that this isn't necessarily true for everyone.

The nature of the wound itself can affect how time influences healing. In one study, researchers found that time did have an effect on whether people were willing to forgive an interpersonal transgression. As time passed, people became more likely to forgive, suggesting that time played a role in healing the hurt.

However, research has also found that time does not heal all wounds. In one study, bereaved people had high levels of prolonged grief one to two years after a loss.

It's important to remember that pain and trauma can carry lasting effects. The effects of childhood trauma are a perfect example that demonstrates that time alone does not heal all wounds.

Adverse childhood experiences , for example, are traumatic events that occur during childhood that have effects that last into adulthood. Such experiences can include things like neglect, abuse, violence, substance use, divorce, and the loss of a loved one. 

These adverse early experiences are linked to later problems, including depression, unemployment, financial difficulties, substance use, and health problems. Despite the passage of time, these wounds leave a lasting mark that time alone does not heal.  

How Time Can Help You Heal

What is time’s actual role in healing? According to licensed psychologist and owner of the Baltimore Therapy Group Heather Z. Lyons , PhD, time essentially equates to opportunity. Therefore, how someone heals over time ultimately depends on how they decide to use that opportunity to shape their present and future circumstances.

She explains that people can use time to gain insight, healthier relationships, and an orientation toward growth. "Some people will use time as an opportunity to collect experiences that orient them toward their values and dilute or challenge difficult experiences," she says.

For example, people can connect with friends , develop new relationships, or engage in activities they find rewarding to aid in the healing process.

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Time also allows for reflection on the difficult experience in a way that promotes insight and the ability to move on.

She notes that this is contrasted with rumination , which is reflection that does not integrate thought and emotion.

"Rumination is usually all emotion or all thought. Healthy reflection integrates the two to help people gain new understandings," she explains, noting that when people ruminate, they usually confirm negative beliefs about themselves or others.

For example, this may include a belief like "I knew he'd leave me, that's just the way all men are" or "I won't let my guard down next time so I don’t get hurt."

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It’s possible (and highly likely) that time will not heal all wounds for several reasons. So, what can prevent someone from healing as time goes on?

The following things may prolong your healing even though a notable amount of time has passed:

  • Remaining fixated on something, like how a harsh breakup ended
  • Refusing to let go of a betrayal by holding a grudge
  • Denial that something has happened
  • Not forgiving yourself or a person who was accountable for the wound or trauma
  • Not having a solid support system or emotional outlet to express your emotions
  • Resorting to unhealthy coping and/or distraction mechanisms
  • Relying on drinking or taking drugs to numb pain associated with the event

In addition to ruminating, people can use time to support the limiting beliefs that they have that keep them stuck in a cycle of negative experiences.

"[They] find themselves stuck and living in the past as though no time has elapsed after the experience of a difficult event," says Lyons. "Of course, some experiences are so traumatic that they leave us scarred for a while, and this scarring is our brain's way of keeping us healthy," she says.

Time can help with healing, but there are also things you can do to help ensure that you move forward in a way that brings you greater peace.

Some factors differentiate those who move on with time and those for whom time seems to provide the opportunity to become more entrenched in a loss, trauma, or other difficult experiences.

Essentially, how you utilize your time directly correlates to how well and quickly you will heal. So let's take a look at some factors that help facilitate the healing process.

Integrate Lessons You've Learned

"People need the opportunity to express their pain in ways that marry insight and emotion," says Lyons. This could mean creating art based on your experience, making music, creating journal entries, or writing stories.

Ultimately, you can express your pain in a way that feels cathartic and healing to you so it doesn’t stay bottled up or turn into an unhealthy expression down the line.

Honor Your Emotions

Give yourself grace to fully process your emotions. This is especially important after experiencing a traumatic situation, like a breakup, a death , or a physical injury. Release any judgment associated with the experience, and allow yourself to accept and feel whatever comes up for you in order to move past it.

Receive Support

Lyons notes that people benefit from social support . So spend time with those you trust who can offer you emotional support in your time of need. This can be friends, family, or a trained professional, like a therapist or coach.

Align Your Actions With Your Values

"People benefit from engaging in activities that help them live lives aligned with their values," says Lyons. So pursue the hobbies you enjoy and make new memories doing what you love to help yourself achieve a deeper sense of healing.

Techniques to Speed Up the Recovery Process 

Instead of solely depending on time to heal your wounds, there are other areas that you can focus on to promote healing. To achieve a deeper sense of healing, you can try any or all of the following techniques:

  • Spend time with loved ones
  • Connect with new potential friends and partners
  • Improve your physical health
  • Collect new experiences (e.g., travel, meet new people, etc.)
  • Practice gratitude for all of the positives in your life
  • Practice forgiveness toward yourself and those who hurt you
  • Practice self-reflection and fully process your emotions
  • Lean on your support system
  • Speak with a therapist or life coach
  • Pursue creative outlets to channel your emotions (e.g., art or music)

Lyons reminds readers that "when we open ourselves up to new people and experiences, we also retrain our brain to understand that yes, there are places and relationships that are dangerous, but there are also places and relationships that are safe."

Keep in Mind

"Time heals all wounds" is one of the most popular sayings, but it may not be completely true. Although time is not exactly a healer, it can have healing purposes. Ultimately, though, it’s up to you to find ways to achieve healing during the time that passes after experiencing a wound or trauma.

Try not to guilt yourself if you heal slower than you want to. Everybody heals on their own timeline, so offer yourself grace and patience.

If you find it difficult to overcome an experience, consider seeking the help of a therapist or qualified mental health professional. An experienced professional will be able to guide you through the healing process in ways that offer much deeper healing than time alone can offer.

Wohl MJ, McGrath AL. The perception of time heals all wounds: temporal distance affects willingness to forgive following an interpersonal transgression .  Pers Soc Psychol Bull . 2007;33(7):1023-1035. doi:10.1177/0146167207301021

Titlestad KB, Dyregrov K. Does 'time heal all wounds?' The prevalence and predictors of prolonged grief among drug-death bereaved family members: A cross-sectional study .  Omega (Westport) . doi:10.1177/00302228221098584

Jackisch J, Ploubidis GB, Gondek D. Does time heal all wounds? Life course associations between child welfare involvement and mortality in prospective cohorts from Sweden and Britain .  SSM Popul Health . 2021;14:100772. doi:10.1016/j.ssmph.2021.100772

By Morgan Mandriota Morgan Mandriota is a freelance writer, the founder of Highly Untamed, and an expert writer at Verywell Mind.

Time Heals All Wounds – Or Does It?

Being emotionally wounded can mark a difficult time in a person's life. The uncertainty that comes along with a painful event often leaves one wondering if the ache will ever end. Have you been there?

No doubt, we have all heard the saying, "Time heals all wounds." While the intentions of the person saying it are usually good, it's not always easy to grasp the idea that healing can take place. Often, the heartache of the moment weighs so heavily upon us that we cannot see past the pain.

A person who has been wounded can experience many emotions. Depending on the circumstances, one may feel anger or frustration, and sadness or depression may also be present. The amount of time it takes to heal depends on the complexity of an individual's experience as well as the presence of effective coping mechanisms.

It's okay to feel hurt. It is even okay to feel angry. However, learning to live through the pain of a harmful experience may be beneficial. Specifically, it can help you to reestablish balance in your life. Understanding how to identify your feelings and address the situation may help you begin to heal.

Identifying the source of the wound

Being wounded seems to throw things off kilter. It can leave you feeling like the world is moving in a fast-paced blur while you are frozen in disbelief. It's not uncommon for someone who has been wounded to say, "I just want to feel normal again". Even though being hurt can make you feel lonely, you are not alone.

Emotional responses to being wounded are often complex, and like peeling an onion, they may have to be addressed one layer at a time. Even when a wound is fresh and seems unbearable, there is a way to begin finding balance.

For some, the source of feeling wounded is obvious. Others, however, may have experienced one or more things over the course of time that left them feeling hurt and wounded. Whether it's a cheating spouse, the loss of a loved one, or another traumatic event, the pain can be significant. You may want to take the time to think about the events in your life that have led you to feel wounded. Identifying the source of the pain may help you as you begin the journey of healing.

The effects of time on healing

When you are in the middle of a painful event, being told to "just give it time" or "time will make it better" may add stress to your already painful feelings. For some, healing comes in stages. Some of those stages take longer than others.

When you experience an event that wounds you, the idea that you can one day move past the pain or sadness is a hopeful thought. Wanting to feel normal again is natural. While time may not necessarily heal all wounds, it does give you an opportunity to process your feelings. With time, the perception of pain can be altered. This is an important part of healing.

Just how much time does it take to begin feeling better? There is no exact answer to this question and no formula we can give you to determine how long you will feel this way. We all process thoughts and feelings differently.

Why does it hurt so much?

If you have ever been wounded by a person or event, you may have wondered why it was so painful. Human beings are emotional creatures. Almost everything we do is connected to our emotions. In some cases, it's the memory of a time with a lost loved one. It could be the aroma of a pie baking in the oven that causes us to remember a time enjoyed together, for instance. Anything related to a meaningful experience is something that can spark emotion within us.

When we are hurt, our emotions seem to be on "high alert." To begin healing, it's necessary to think about the situation and why it may be causing so much pain.

Consider these questions:

  • Was the cause of your wound something foreseeable? If you have experienced something that has left you wounded and you think you could have prevented it, the pain you are experiencing could be coupled with guilt. It's important to remind yourself that whatever happens, you cannot change the past. Don't live in it and blame yourself. Healing begins by acknowledging what happened and letting go. 
  • Is the person (or situation) who caused your wound still present in your life? Relationships that have caused you pain, particularly if they are not mended or ended, can have an emotional effect much like that of a festering sore. In these cases, it’s likely that the source of the wound must be identified and addressed. If your spouse or significant other has said or done something to hurt you, ignoring it does not usually make the pain go away. Talking out the situation and discussing your feelings may help you determine if this is something you can recover from, or if you need to end the relationship. Either way, it’s important that you heal and move on to a healthier life.
  • Have you lost something that is irreplaceable? One of the most painful wounds is the wound that death leaves behind. Whether the death was sudden or the result of a long-term illness, it doesn't change that we have lost someone we love. Healing the wound caused by the loss of life is often difficult because the lost loved one cannot be replaced. 

Can online therapy help my wounds heal?

While healing of any kind does take time, sometimes the process may require more than just patiently waiting. If you have experienced a wound or traumatic event, it’s okay to reach out for help. You may find that reaching out to others opens the floodgates of emotion and allows healing to flow in.

Many people find it difficult to let go of the source of their trauma or pain. For some, it is a reminder of things lost. They might feel that letting go of the pain will make what they lost fade or seem to have never existed. If you feel overwhelmed by painful emotions, seeking the help of a mental health professional could be beneficial. Your family doctor can offer recommendations and/or referrals if needed.

If you feel too overwhelmed to leave the house to address your emotional wounds, online counseling is an option. With internet-based therapy platforms like BetterHelp , you can talk with a mental health professional from the comfort of your home. 

Research with a veteran population has shown that individual and group therapy via videoconferencing yielded similar results in the reduction of symptoms as those found in traditional therapy. Online therapy can also help with other related conditions such as insomnia and anxiety.

BetterHelp offers an opportunity to connect with licensed mental health professionals who can help you navigate through the pain of your wound, so you can move forward in your life. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors from people experiencing similar issues.

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"Neville has been there for me, understanding me, guiding me, helping me see things through. His kind language, thoughtful approaches to issues, and professional advice have been the help I have been needing to go through a very difficult grievance process that I have been suffering from for a very long time."

"Sarah is a kind person who listens intently, focuses on issues, and then helps find successful strategies to deal with those issues. Never once did I feel that she was judging me or talking down to me. She was easy for me to open up to, she was professional, and she took me seriously. Together we discussed issues of loss and grief from the passing of my father, which had become more than I could handle alone. She not only validated my feelings of loss, but she also helped me find ways to mitigate those feelings, break them down into their roots and causes then address those. Coping with grief and loss is hard work, but Sarah helped me find the tools I needed within myself to do that hard work and ultimately find success. I am a stronger person now. I am happy and confident. I may not know what is around the next corner, but I know that whatever it is, I can handle it."

What does “time heals all wounds” mean?

The saying “time heals all wounds” refers to the fact that it takes time for all wounds, mental or physical, to heal. Healing is never instantaneous, and it is important to remember that recovery is a process. The saying is often misinterpreted as “only time is needed to heal wounds,” which is a common misconception . Time is not medicine, and both psychological and physical wounds often require intervention beyond waiting for the injury to heal. For healing purposes, physical wounds are treated by medical professionals, and emotional wounds by a therapist or other mental health practitioner. 

Who said “time heals all wounds”?

The earliest instance of a saying equivalent to “time heals all wounds” might be attributable to Menander, a Greek poet who lived around 300 B.C. His exact words, translated to English, were “time is the healer of all necessary evils.” The modern popularity of the modern “time heals all wounds” might be attributable to a quote by Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy, who said : 

“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue, and the pain lessens. But it is never gone."

Rose Kennedy’s interpretation of “time heals all wounds” negates the premise that some amount of time will guarantee complete healing. Conventional wisdom suggests that larger wounds require more time to heal. Still, Kennedy asserts that some wounds never fully heal , instead turning to scars and lesions that represent the original injury.  

What can I say instead of “time heals all wounds”?

“Time heals all wounds” is often offered as a comforting saying, the intention being that the listener is reminded that, in time, their injury will fade. It is commonly said in response to emotional pain, such as the grieving process from losing a loved one, and may not be the most effective way of delivering comfort. 

Instead of searching for a phrase that will deliver comfort and encouragement instantly, you may want to begin by simply listening to offer emotional support. People who are healing from emotional wounds often benefit from encouragement and validation, and it may be helpful to listen to their feelings and respond in a manner that encourages the person to believe that their feelings are valid.

You might remind them that you are ready to listen and encourage them to speak about their feelings. If they communicate their emotional healing challenges with you, respond in a non-judgemental and affirming manner. Try not to offer advice unless it is requested. The goal is to provide a safe, nurturing space for the wounded person to heal. 

Why does healing take time?

No healing process is instant. Whether it is a physical injury or an emotional one, healing always follows the passage of time. This sometimes creates the impression that, as time passes, all wounds heal automatically. However, evidence suggests this is not the case . Many mental or physical wounds heal much quicker with intervention, and some wounds require professional help to heal properly. 

The need for intervention is often much clearer for physical wounds. Very few people would offer platitudes like “time heals all wounds” to a person who is bleeding profusely or has a visibly broken bone. In contrast, it is common to hear about the healing powers of time when discussing emotional wounds. 

Just as a person with a broken bone will likely require medical intervention to heal properly, as well as time, a person undergoing an emotional recovery process may require help to heal completely. Negative emotions can be difficult to recover from, and healing can stall regardless of how much time has passed. While it is true that all healing takes time, time is often not all that is required. 

Does time really heal a breakup?

Time is an important component of healing from a breakup, but it is not the only one that matters. Getting over a difficult breakup often requires facing the truth that the relationship has ended, engaging in self-reflection, and committing to personal growth. Obtaining both the time and resources to heal is equally important. There may be painful memories to overcome or profound sorrow to navigate, but most people need more than time to heal. 

If engaging directly with your former relationship's thoughts is too difficult, it may be worthwhile to focus on good self-care routines instead. Turn your focus to getting regular exercise, eating a healthy diet, and getting enough sleep. A regular exercise routine is one of the best ways to improve emotional well-being and mental health . A healthy diet can keep you feeling physically well, and it is important not to deny yourself sleep or sleep too much while you are recovering. Practicing good self-care may help you from feeling worse during your recovery. 

What does the Bible say about healing wounds?

The saying “time heals all wounds” is sometimes misattributed to the Bible, but it does not appear within its pages. The Bible does comment on healing wounds, but a better summary of what the Bible suggests might be “ God heals all wounds. ” Christianity recognizes that healing is an active act, and attributing healing to the passage of time alone makes it seem that healing occurs automatically. 

The Bible eschews passivity when considering God’s role in healing. Rather than wait for time to pass, a Christian should instead rely on God and his Word to guide their healing. Whether that means seeking atonement or offering forgiveness, the Bible is clear that God heals wounds, but only with the participation of the wounded. 

What does the saying “time is a great healer” mean?

The saying “time is a great healer” is one of many old sayings that allude to the healing powers of time. It is often misinterpreted to mean that time is the only thing required for healing, but evidence suggests that is false. Healing often requires intervention, effort, and dedication , in addition to time. The confusion likely arises due to the fact that all healing processes require time to complete, meaning time is necessary to heal from sorrow or other emotional wounds. However, just because time is necessary doesn’t mean that nothing else is required to heal. 

Who said “time is the best healer”?

One of the earliest instances of a saying synonymous with “time is a great healer” may be attributable to the Greek poet Menander, who lived around 300 B.C. His exact words, translated from Greek, were, “Time is the healer of all necessary evils.” His words are likely one of the first written records of the conceptual link between healing and the passage of time. 

What is the quote about time not healing?

Many quotes about time not healing stand in opposition to conventional wisdom, like “time heals all wounds.” One popular quote, attributed to Edith Edgar, succinctly illustrates the true power of time when healing: 

“Time doesn’t heal. It’s what you do with the time. Healing is possible when we choose to release the wound, to let go of the past or the grief.” 

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Time Heals All Wounds: Myth or Truth? Exploring a Common Proverb

by Danny Ballan | Mar 11, 2024 | Daily Proverbs

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Have you ever looked back at a truly painful experience, only to realize it doesn’t hurt quite as badly as it once did? Was there a heartbreak that seemed to last forever, now a distant, bittersweet memory? A betrayal, a loss, a deep wound…and yet, somehow, you moved on. That’s the mysterious power of the old saying, “Time heals all wounds.” But does it, really? Can time truly erase the sting of the past, or do those scars simply fade beneath the surface?

Welcome to Daily Proverb, where we dig into those little nuggets of wisdom that have been passed down for generations. Today, we’re unraveling the truth behind the concept that “Time heals all wounds.” Spoiler alert…it’s not quite as simple as it seems.

So, does time heal? Well, yes and no. The passing of time certainly allows for a shift in perspective. When we’re in the thick of an emotional storm, the world can feel unbearably small. Our pain becomes all-consuming. But as days, weeks, or even years pass, the rest of life marches on. We have new experiences, both good and bad. We forge fresh connections. And gradually, that all-encompassing pain loses some of its sharpness.

There’s a biological component to this too. Our brains are remarkably adaptable machines, designed for resilience. When we experience trauma, both physical and emotional, our bodies react. Stress hormones flood our system, and our brains can quite literally change in response. Over time, though, those stress pathways calm down. The initial shock lessens.

But here’s the thing – healing isn’t the same as forgetting. Time doesn’t wipe our memories clean. Those scars, while less vivid, remain a part of our story. The past shapes who we are – it informs our choices, our fears, and ultimately, our resilience. Deep wounds often leave a lasting mark.

So, if time doesn’t fully heal, what does? Well, that’s where things get interesting. True healing often takes effort. It means confronting those painful memories, processing those raw emotions. It can involve seeking support, through therapy, trusted friends, or support groups. It’s about finding healthy ways to acknowledge the pain without allowing it to define you.

And here’s the beauty of it: healing isn’t linear. There will be setbacks, old wounds might flare up unexpectedly. But with time, intention, and the right support, we can learn to carry those scars, without letting them control our present or our future.

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The saying “time heals all wounds” suggests that with the simple passage of time, all emotional and even physical pain will eventually fade away. It’s a comforting sentiment, a light at the end of a dark tunnel when we’re consumed by hurt. But is it always accurate? Let’s dive into the nuances of this age-old proverb.

There’s some truth to the idea that time plays a role in healing. Here’s why:

  • Perspective Shifts:  When we’re in the midst of suffering, our focus narrows. As time passes, we gain distance, seeing the larger picture of our lives. What once seemed all-consuming can diminish in intensity.
  • Biological Adaptation:  Our bodies and brains have remarkable resilience. The initial shock and flood of stress hormones following a traumatic event lessen over time. This biological calming allows space for healing to begin.
  • New Experiences:  Life continues to unfold. New experiences, both positive and challenging, reshape our priorities and offer opportunities for growth. Time allows us to build a life beyond a singular painful event.

It’s important to remember that time isn’t a magic eraser. Some wounds run very deep, leaving scars that never fully disappear. Here’s when the proverb falls short:

  • Unprocessed Trauma:  If deep emotional wounds are ignored or buried, they can fester and resurface in harmful ways. Unresolved grief, suppressed anger, or untreated PTSD require active intervention.
  • Lack of Support:  Healing is often a communal process. If we isolate ourselves during pain, the lack of support can hinder recovery. Time alone won’t fix the loneliness or lack of resources that can compound suffering.
  • Complicated Circumstances:  If the source of pain is ongoing, such as an abusive relationship or a chronic illness, time in itself isn’t a solution. Safety and active steps towards change are paramount.

While often well-intentioned, the phrase “time heals all wounds” can be dismissive when shared at the wrong moment. For someone in the raw phases of grief or trauma, it can feel like their pain is being minimized. Instead, offering support and presence without trying to “fix” their experience might be more helpful.

Rather than viewing healing as a passive process solely dependent on time, it’s more helpful to see it as active. Healing frequently requires:

  • Acknowledging Pain:  Trying to push emotions away prolongs the hurt. Allowing space to feel grief, anger, or disappointment is a vital first step.
  • Seeking Support:  This could mean therapy, support groups, or leaning on trusted loved ones. Processing pain in community aids recovery.
  • Self-Care:  Prioritizing sleep, movement, healthy eating, and mindfulness practices supports our bodies and minds during difficult times.

Time plays a role in the healing process, but it’s rarely the sole solution. Remember, scars are part of our stories. They don’t define us, but they shape us. True healing is about learning to live with those scars, integrating our past experiences into who we are, without letting them dictate our future.

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Anne H Putnam lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband and their cat and writes about body image, relationships, and anything else that requires an awkward amount of vulnerability. You can follow her on Twitter for politics and random musings or Instagram for cat pics and baked goods.

Sure, Time Heals All Wounds, But It Doesn’t Work Alone

By anne putnam.

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Near the end of our work together, I mentioned to my therapist that I’d been feeling “weirdly okay” lately – for the first time since the betrayal that ended my engagement and propelled me into therapy, I was sleeping better, spiraling less, and even thinking of my ex in a more detached way, when I thought of him at all.

“You know I hate platitudes,” I said, my eyes rolling up into my forehead automatically, “but maybe the time thing is true? As irritating as it is…”

When fiancé and I broke up, while I was reeling from his infidelity and the end of our seven-year relationship, I had a raging, indignant reaction to the platitudes my well-meaning friends and family kept offering me. How could there be a silver lining to this intense pain, and more importantly why was it so important to people who professed to care about me that I find some positive note in my own personal hell?

But “time heals all wounds” was doubly frustrating because I couldn’t make time go any faster – I was stuck in my trauma for the foreseeable future – and there was no guarantee of how long time would take to fix what I was going through. It was enough to make me give up on life, which I considered often.

Six years later, though, I was reconsidering “time heals all wounds.” After all, I had healed, at least mostly – sure, I still felt raw sometimes and I wasn’t sure I’d ever be completely untangled from my past, but my day-to-day life and my new marriage had almost nothing to do with my ex or the heartbreak he caused.

My therapist looked at me, her brown eyes steady on mine through the screen of my laptop. We’d been doing telehealth since I moved to another state, and now even that was going to have to end due to licensing issues.

“Anne, I think you’re not giving yourself enough credit.”

“Shocker,” I scoffed, but then I fell silent and let her continue.

“It’s true that time is an important element of healing, but what you choose to do with that time is equally important. You’ve spent the past six years working to understand and untangle not just what happened with your relationship, but the deeper workings of your own mind, the way you relate to the world and the people in your life. That’s incredibly valuable.”

My therapist didn’t offer opinions often – she was more likely to ask guiding questions and hold space for me to work out the tangles in my brain out loud – but when she did, they were always like this. Deeply resonant truths that cut through all my defenses and self-invalidations and radiated through my bones.

All I could do was nod, maybe let out a thoughtful and inarticulate “huh.”

Now, two years after our last session, I think about what she said all the time. When I first started seeing her, I was in shards, each piece of my shattered self, slicing and poking the others with every intake of breath. I couldn’t comprehend how it would be useful to sit in this office for 45 minutes every Tuesday and try to explain to this stranger all the complexities of the seven-year relationship I’d just ended. But I didn’t know what else to do, and I worried about wearing out my friends with my broken-record obsession with my own trauma, so I went.

And pretty soon I was noting my thoughts and emotions throughout the week, “saving up” topics for my next therapy session, and feeling a little bit safer during my worst moments because I knew I’d have someone to talk to about them soon enough.

It took me a long time to heal from that breakup – some days I’m not even sure I’m finished, despite being happily married to someone else. But one thing is certain: any true healing I’ve managed is down to more than just time. It’s the result of effort and dedication, and it wouldn’t have been possible without therapy.

I’m certain that, for me, time would not have healed this wound on its own. Oh, sure, it would have scabbed it over, but the infection would have lingered below the surface. Wounds need proper care to heal, not just time. Anyone who’s ever read medical history can tell you that. Even now, people live with festering sores for decades because they’re incapable of accessing the care they need, and the same is true of emotional trauma. Time is a part of the equation, but it’s not the whole solution.

The healing happens when you’re willing to pull off the scab in a clinical environment, to (often painfully) clean out the wound, however many times it takes for scar tissue to build up. For me, weekly therapy sessions provided the safe space and guidance I needed to examine my own wound, painstakingly picking out the rot week by week, so that I would eventually heal over properly.

And by properly, I don’t always mean neatly. Scar tissue can be ugly – mine is ropey and twisted and lumpy, forever reminding me of what I went through – but it’s also strong. It keeps the vulnerable parts of me safe, even if it can be inflexible and tough.

Which is another reason to heal wounds carefully: the more care you take with the process, the more control you have over whether your scars take over and replace your vulnerability altogether. I don’t think I would have been able to trust and love my now-husband as openly as I do if I’d just let my wounds knot into untended scar tissue over time.

The process of therapy not only helped me heal the wound from my broken engagement, but also helped me go back and heal childhood wounds (or at least get started – I’m pretty sure that’s more of a lifelong process) and work on my own failings and connect with my core values in a way I’d never been able to do before.

So yes, time is a healer, but it shouldn’t work alone. What we do with our time matters. For me, therapy has been a large part of the healing process, and it’s also helped me incorporate healthier relationships and boundaries as orbital healers.

I have a new therapist now, one who lives in my state and who, coming on board when she did, helps me more with my marriage and family and career than she does with this old wound. But the wound continues to heal, with the guidance of my new therapist and the memory of what I learned from my first one. Every year, the balance shifts away from hot, tender infection in favor of strong scar tissue shifts, but I’m taking it slowly.

I’d rather get it right the first time, however long (and however much therapy) that takes.

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Sudden grief overwhelmed me to a point where I couldn’t function in my second year of college. I had never viscerally experienced an emotion so deeply it made me sick.

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You are not the same shape that you used to be. Your body has grown solid. It’s filled out the peaks and valleys of your ribs and hips, and there’s a slight glow in your cheeks.

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Time Heal: The Powerful Journey of Healing

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Time heals, they say. It’s a phrase we often hear when going through difficult periods in our lives. But what does it really mean? Can time truly heal our emotional wounds and help us move forward?

When we experience pain, heartbreak, or loss, it can feel overwhelming and impossible to imagine ever feeling better again. However, as days turn into weeks and weeks into months, we may start to notice subtle changes within ourselves. The intensity of the pain begins to fade, the memories become less painful, and we slowly find ourselves able to engage with life once more.

While time alone cannot magically erase all the pain and scars from our past experiences, it does play a crucial role in the healing process. Time allows us to gain perspective on what has happened and gives us the space to process our emotions at our own pace. It offers an opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection as we learn valuable lessons from our hardships.

It’s important to note that healing is not solely dependent on the passage of time; active efforts towards healing such as therapy, support from loved ones, self-care practices, and developing coping mechanisms are also instrumental in the journey towards recovery. Time simply provides a container within which these healing processes can unfold.

While time may not be a magical cure-all for every wound we carry within us, it does have a transformative power if coupled with intentional efforts towards healing. So let’s embrace each passing day with hope and resilience knowing that time is indeed on our side when it comes to healing.

The Power of Time to Heal

When it comes to healing, time has an incredible ability to work its magic. It’s fascinating how the passing of days, weeks, and months can gradually mend our emotional wounds and bring us back to a place of wholeness. The power of time lies in its capacity to provide distance and perspective, allowing us to process our experiences and find inner peace .

One example that illustrates the healing power of time is the process of grieving after losing a loved one. In the immediate aftermath of a loss, the pain feels unbearable, as if it will never subside. But as time goes on, we start to adapt and find ways to cope with our sorrow. Memories become less painful and more cherished, allowing us to honor the person we’ve lost while still moving forward with our lives.

Another situation where time proves its effectiveness is in recovering from heartbreak. When a relationship ends, it can feel like your world has shattered into pieces. Every reminder of your former partner stings like salt on an open wound. However, as days turn into weeks and then into months, you begin to heal little by little. You gain clarity about what went wrong and learn valuable lessons for future relationships. Gradually, you rediscover your self-worth and open yourself up to new possibilities.

Time also plays a crucial role in physical healing processes. Whether it’s recovering from surgery or healing from an injury, our bodies have a remarkable ability to repair themselves over time. With each passing day, cells regenerate, scars fade away, and strength returns. It’s a testament to the innate resilience within us that allows our bodies to bounce back even when faced with adversity.

Understanding the Healing Process

When it comes to the concept of “time heals,” it can be both perplexing and bursty. We often hear this phrase when facing emotional or physical pain, but what does it really mean? How does time play a role in our healing process?

Firstly, it’s important to recognize that healing is not a linear journey. It’s a complex process that varies from person to person and depends on various factors such as the nature of the injury or trauma, individual resilience, and support systems. Time alone cannot magically erase our pain or wounds; rather, it provides us with an opportunity for growth and adaptation.

One key aspect of the healing process is allowing ourselves to experience and express our emotions. Time allows us to navigate through these emotions at our own pace, gradually processing them and gaining a deeper understanding of ourselves in the process. It’s like giving ourselves permission to grieve, reflect, and find meaning amidst turmoil.

Another crucial element is self-care. As time passes, we learn how to prioritize our well-being and take steps towards nurturing ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. This may involve seeking professional help if needed, engaging in activities that bring joy or relaxation, or connecting with supportive individuals who can offer guidance along the way.

Moreover, time provides us with an opportunity for introspection and self-reflection. It allows us to gain valuable insights into our experiences and make sense of what has happened. Through this introspection, we can identify patterns or behaviors that may hinder our healing progress and actively work towards breaking free from them.

In summary, while time alone cannot heal all wounds instantaneously, it plays an integral role in the healing process by providing space for emotional expression, fostering self-care practices, facilitating introspection and personal growth. Understanding this dynamic empowers us to embrace patience while actively participating in our own healing journey.

Embracing Grief and Loss

When it comes to the journey of healing, embracing grief and loss is an essential step. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to navigate through these emotions. However, acknowledging and allowing ourselves to experience grief can be a powerful catalyst for healing.

  • Allowing yourself to feel : Grief is not something that can be rushed or ignored. It’s important to give yourself permission to feel the pain, sadness, anger, or any other emotions that arise during this time. By honoring your feelings, you’re giving yourself the space needed to heal.
  • Seeking support: You don’t have to go through grief alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide a listening ear and guidance during this challenging period. Support groups and therapy sessions can also offer valuable insights as you navigate through your own unique grieving process.
  • Honoring memories : Embracing grief doesn’t mean forgetting about the person or thing you’ve lost. Take time to honor their memory in ways that are meaningful to you – whether it’s creating a memorial tribute, writing in a journal, or participating in activities they loved. This can help keep their spirit alive while providing comfort and solace for yourself.
  • Embracing self-care : During times of grief and loss, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care practices that nourish both your mind and body. Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating well-balanced meals, engaging in physical activity that suits your abilities, and finding activities that bring joy into your life.
  • Finding meaning : While grief may initially feel like an overwhelming void, it also presents an opportunity for growth and transformation if we allow ourselves the chance to find meaning within our experiences. Reflect on how this loss has changed you as a person or what lessons it has taught you about life.

Remember that everyone’s journey through grief is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate it. Embracing grief and loss takes time, patience, and self-compassion. By facing these emotions head-on, you’re taking a significant step towards healing and finding peace within yourself.

Cultivating Self-Care Practices

When it comes to healing and moving forward, one of the most crucial steps we can take is to prioritize self-care. Engaging in regular self-care practices not only helps us recharge and rejuvenate, but it also plays a significant role in our overall well-being. Here are a few examples of how we can cultivate self-care practices:

  • Carving out “Me” Time : In our fast-paced lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the daily hustle and overlook our own needs. However, setting aside dedicated time for ourselves is essential for maintaining balance and reducing stress. Whether it’s enjoying a bubble bath, reading a book, or simply taking a walk in nature, finding activities that bring joy and relaxation is key.
  • Nurturing Healthy Relationship s: Building and nurturing healthy relationships is an integral part of self-care. Surrounding ourselves with positive influences who uplift and support us can contribute significantly to our emotional well-being. Taking the time to connect with loved ones, whether through phone calls, coffee dates, or even virtual meetups, can provide a sense of belonging and foster personal growth.
  • Prioritizing Physical Health : Our physical health directly impacts our mental well-being. Incorporating regular exercise into our routine not only benefits us physically but also releases endorphins that boost mood and reduce anxiety levels. Additionally, paying attention to proper nutrition and getting enough sleep are vital components of maintaining optimal health.
  • Practicing Mindfulness : Cultivating mindfulness allows us to be fully present in the moment without judgment or distraction. This practice involves being aware of our thoughts, emotions, sensations, and surroundings as they arise without feeling overwhelmed by them. By integrating mindfulness techniques such as meditation or deep breathing exercises into our daily lives, we can enhance self-awareness and find inner peace.
  • Engaging in Creative Outlets : Expressing ourselves creatively can be incredibly therapeutic and a form of self-care. Whether it’s painting, writing, dancing, or playing an instrument, engaging in artistic pursuits allows us to tap into our emotions and channel them constructively. These creative outlets serve as a means of self-expression and can be cathartic during times of healing.

Remember, cultivating self-care practices is not a one-size-fits-all approach. It’s essential to explore different activities and find what resonates with you personally. By prioritizing self-care, we are taking proactive steps towards nurturing our well-being and allowing time to heal.

Seeking Support from Loved Ones

When going through difficult times, seeking support from loved ones can be incredibly beneficial. Not only can they provide a listening ear, but their presence and understanding can also offer comfort and reassurance. Here are a few ways in which leaning on your loved ones can help you heal:

  • Emotional Support: When we’re feeling overwhelmed by our emotions, having someone who understands and empathizes with us can make a world of difference. Simply venting about our feelings or sharing our worries with a trusted friend or family member can provide relief and help us gain perspective.
  • Validation and Encouragement: Our loved ones have the power to validate our experiences and remind us that what we’re feeling is valid. Their encouragement and belief in our ability to overcome obstacles can boost our self-confidence and motivate us to keep moving forward.
  • Distraction from Pain: Engaging in activities with loved ones allows us to momentarily escape from our pain or distress. Whether it’s going for a walk, watching a movie together, or simply engaging in light-hearted conversation, these moments of distraction can bring temporary relief and allow for much-needed respite.
  • Practical Assistance: Sometimes, healing requires practical assistance like running errands, helping with household chores, or taking care of responsibilities that may feel overwhelming during challenging times. Loved ones often step up to lend a helping hand without hesitation.
  • Sharing Wisdom and Experiences: Those closest to us have likely experienced their fair share of hardships as well. Drawing on their wisdom and learning from their own experiences can provide valuable insights into how we might navigate our own healing journey.

Remember that seeking support doesn’t mean burdening others or relying solely on them for your well-being; it means recognizing when you need assistance and reaching out when necessary. Together with the love and support of your loved ones, you’ll find solace in knowing you don’t have to face challenging times alone. Finding solace in nature is a powerful way to embrace the healing power of time. When life becomes overwhelming and emotions run high, immersing oneself in the beauty and tranquility of the natural world can offer a much-needed respite. Here are a few examples that illustrate how connecting with nature can bring comfort and aid in the process of healing:

  • Walking among towering trees: There’s something incredibly calming about strolling through a lush forest or wooded area. The gentle rustling of leaves, the scent of earth, and the sight of sunlight filtering through branches all work together to create a serene atmosphere. Simply being present in this natural setting allows one to step away from worries and find solace in the simplicity and harmony of nature.
  • Gazing at vast expanses: Whether it’s standing on a mountaintop, overlooking rolling hills, or sitting by the shore watching waves crash against rocks, being surrounded by vast open spaces can provide a profound sense of perspective and peace. The grandeur of nature reminds us how small our troubles may be in comparison to the immense world around us.
  • Finding refuge in wildlife: Animals have an incredible ability to captivate our attention and evoke feelings of joy and wonderment. Observing birds soaring across the sky or encountering curious creatures during hikes can help divert our focus from pain or distress, allowing us to momentarily escape into their captivating world.
  • Engaging in outdoor activities: Participating in physical activities like hiking, swimming, or even gardening not only gets our bodies moving but also helps clear our minds. The rhythmic motion involved in these activities can be meditative, enabling us to release pent-up emotions while enjoying the beauty that surrounds us.
  • Seeking solace near water: Water has long been associated with calmness and renewal due to its soothing qualities. Whether it’s sitting beside a babbling brook or taking leisurely walks along sandy shores listening to the rhythmic ebb and flow of waves, the presence of water can have a therapeutic effect on our state of mind.

By immersing ourselves in nature and embracing its wonders, we open ourselves up to healing experiences that transcend time. The beauty of nature has a way of reminding us that life is ever-changing, and with each passing moment, we have the opportunity to let go, heal, and find solace in the world around us.

Exploring Therapeutic Techniques

When it comes to the healing power of time, there are various therapeutic techniques that can aid in the process. These techniques are designed to support individuals on their journey towards emotional and psychological well-being. Let’s delve into a few examples:

  • Mindfulness Meditation: One effective technique is mindfulness meditation, which involves focusing one’s attention on the present moment without judgment. By bringing awareness to our thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations, we can cultivate a sense of calm and acceptance. Research has shown that regular practice of mindfulness meditation can reduce stress levels and improve overall mental health.
  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is a widely used therapeutic approach that helps individuals identify negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive and constructive ones. This technique aims to change unhealthy behaviors by challenging irrational beliefs and replacing them with healthier alternatives. Through CBT, individuals learn new coping mechanisms and develop skills to manage their emotions effectively.
  • Expressive Arts Therapy: This form of therapy utilizes creative outlets such as painting, music, dance, or writing as tools for self-expression and healing. Engaging in artistic activities allows individuals to explore their emotions in a non-verbal way, providing an avenue for catharsis and self-discovery. Expressive arts therapy has been found beneficial for those struggling with trauma, grief, or other emotional challenges.
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): EMDR is a specialized therapy primarily used for treating post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It involves rhythmic eye movements while recalling distressing memories or traumatic experiences under the guidance of a trained therapist. The goal is to reprocess these memories so that they no longer trigger intense emotional reactions or distress.
  • Support Groups: Joining support groups can be immensely helpful for those seeking healing through shared experiences with others who have gone through similar situations or struggles. These groups provide a safe space for individuals to share their stories, gain support, and learn from others’ perspectives. Being part of a supportive community can foster resilience and aid in the healing process.

Remember, these are just a few examples of therapeutic techniques that can complement the natural healing power of time. Each person’s journey is unique, so it’s important to find the approach that resonates most with you. Whether it’s through mindfulness meditation, CBT, expressive arts therapy, EMDR, or joining a support group – there are various paths towards healing and growth.

Moving Forward with Resilience

In the journey of healing, it’s important to acknowledge that time alone does not guarantee healing. It’s what we do with that time that truly matters. To move forward with resilience requires a conscious effort and a commitment to self-care. Here are some examples of how we can navigate this path:

  • Embracing Self-Reflection : Taking the time to reflect on our experiences, emotions, and reactions can provide valuable insights into our healing process. It allows us to uncover patterns, identify triggers, and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.
  • Cultivating Positive Habits : Engaging in activities that promote well-being can help restore balance and foster resilience. This could include practicing mindfulness or meditation, engaging in regular physical exercise, or pursuing creative outlets such as writing or painting.
  • Seeking Support Systems : Surrounding ourselves with a supportive network is crucial for moving forward with resilience. Connecting with friends, family members, or even seeking professional help through therapy or support groups can provide the necessary encouragement and guidance during challenging times.
  • Setting Realistic Goals : Breaking down the journey of healing into smaller achievable goals can make it more manageable and less overwhelming. Celebrating each milestone along the way helps build confidence and momentum.
  • Embracing Change : Accepting that change is an inevitable part of life allows us to adapt and grow stronger in the face of adversity. By embracing change rather than resisting it, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for personal growth.

Remember, moving forward with resilience doesn’t mean ignoring or suppressing pain; it means acknowledging it while actively working towards healing and growth. It’s about finding inner strength amidst challenges and using them as stepping stones towards a brighter future.

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Groucho Marx? Marshall Reid? Fanny Brice? Frank Case? Jane Ace? Goodman Ace? Rudy Vallée? Verree Teasdale? Robert Bloch? John Lennon? Ann Landers? Anonymous?

Dear Quote Investigator: The following humorous pun about comeuppance for poor behavior has been attributed to the famous comedian Groucho Marx. The slang term “heel” refers to a contemptible person:

Time wounds all heels.

The statement is a scrambled version of the following comforting aphorism about the mitigation of injuries:

Time heals all wounds.

The pun has also been attributed to hotelier Frank Case and radio performer Jane Ace. Would you please explore this saying?

Quote Investigator: Groucho Marx did deliver this comical line during the film “Go West” in 1940, but the expression was already in circulation. In addition, there is good evidence that Frank Case, Jane Ace and several other individuals employed the joke. Detailed citations are given further below.

The earliest citation located by QI appeared in a syndicated news column in December 1934. The remark was ascribed to someone named Marshall Reid. An explanatory anecdote was given to introduce the punchline. Boldface has been added to excerpts: [1] 1934 December 21, Lowell Sun, All In A Day by Mark Hellinger (King Features Syndicate), Quote Page 14, Column 7, Lowell, Massachusetts. (NewspaperArchive)

In a Chicago cafe the other night, an elderly man passed a table. “There goes George,” observed an onlooker. “When he was young, he was a handsome guy. Left a wife and two kids to starve, and ran off with another woman. And now look at him. Old, broke and very sad.” “That’s the way-it-goes,” nodded Marshall Reid. “Time wounds all heels.”

Frank Case was a prominent hotelier who owned and operated the Algonquin Hotel in New York where the celebrated Algonquin Round Table convened. He appeared multiple times on a popular radio program hosted by the entertainer Rudy Vallée. During a broadcast in 1937 Vallée asked Case about “skippers”, hotel guests who attempt to leave without paying their bills. Case’s response included the quip: [2] Website: Old Time Radio Downloads, Audio title: Rudy Vallee Royal Gelatin Hour Guest Tallulah Bankhead, Audio description: Frank Case was also a guest, Air Date on website: June 17, 1937, Audio … Continue reading

We don’t have much trouble with skippers. If a man can’t pay his bill he usually tells me; pays me later. Of course, they’re a few heels who get away with things, but eventually as time goes by they all get caught. What I always say is “Time wounds all heels”.

Here are additional selected citations in chronological order.

In 1938 Frank Case published a memoir titled “Tales of a Wayward Inn” which recounted his experiences running the Algonquin. Case asserted that he created the jest during his radio appearance: [3] 1938, Tales of a Wayward Inn by Frank Case, Chapter 11, Quote Page 231 and 232, Frederick A. Stokes Company, New York. (Verified on paper in Fourth Printing May 18, 1939)

And no one enjoyed my own pun more than I, when Rudy Vallée asked me on the air about skippers, skippers being departed guests who neglect saving adieu to the cashier. “Well, we don’t know much about that; our people always pay, either now or tomorrow. Of course, there are a few heels who appear to get away with it, but time eventually catches up with them and they live to regret their evil ways. What I always say is, Time wounds all heels.”

This intriguing citation was given in three key reference works: “Nice Guys Finish Seventh” by Ralph Keyes, [4] 1992, Nice Guys Finish Seventh: False Phrases, Spurious Sayings, and Familiar Misquotations by Ralph Keyes, Entry: Time wounds all heels, Quote Page 124, HarperCollins, New York. (Verified on paper) “The Yale Book of Quotations” [5] 2006, The Yale Book of Quotations by Fred R. Shapiro, Section Frank Case, Quote Page 138, Yale University Press, New Haven. (Verified on paper) and “The Dictionary of Modern Proverbs”. [6] 2012, The Dictionary of Modern Proverbs, Compiled by Charles Clay Doyle, Wolfgang Mieder, and Fred R. Shapiro, Entry: Time wounds all heels, Quote Page 259, Yale University Press, New Haven. … Continue reading The latter two are from Yale University Press.

In January 1938 the gossip columnist Erskine Johnson published an article filled with quotations from Hollywood figures. He ascribed an extended version of the joke to the singer and comedian Fanny Brice: [7] 1938 January 28, San Mateo Times, Behind the Make-Up by Erskine Johnson, Quote Page 10, Column 6, San Mateo, California. (NewspaperArchive)

Fannie Brice: “Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels.”

In April 1939 a Louisiana newspaper published an article about a long-running radio show called “Easy Aces” starring Jane and Goodman Ace. Episodes of the comedy series were first broadcast in 1930, and during the 1930s Jane Ace became well-known for mangling adages to generate novel comical statements. One of her lines matched the pun under investigation, but it was not clear when she first delivered the remark to her radio audience. The primary writer of the show was Goodman Ace; hence, the expression has been credited to both Goodman and Jane: [8] 1939 April 20, State Times Advocate, Aces Are High in Air Comedy, Quote Page 7, Column 2, Baton Rouge, Louisiana. (GenealogyBank)

Some recent malaprops uttered by Jane are: “Time wounds all heels.” “I always say a wife should take the bitter with the better.” “Go hire a kite.” “You’re getting my ghost.” “No use crying over spoiled milk.” Goodman Ace keeps a record of his malaprop creations in a little black notebook for handy references.

The linkage of the quip to Frank Case was strengthened by an advertising campaign for his memoir. For example, in May 1939 an advertisement in “The New Yorker” magazine prominently featured the quotation. [9] 1939 May 20, The New Yorker, (Advertisement for Tales of a Wayward Inn by Frank Case), Quote Page 92, Column 3, The F-R. Publishing Corporation, New York. (Verified in online database of page scans)

In November 1939 the magazine “Radio and Television Mirror” printed a short piece about “Easy Aces” that included another entertaining set of twisted sayings spoken by Jane Ace. The article stated that “Goodman writes all the scripts himself, and directs them too”: [10] 1939 November, Radio and Television Mirror, Volume 13, Number 1, Tuesday’s Highlights, Quote Page 46, Published by Macfadden Publications, New York. (Internet Archive)

Much more famous than her bridge mistakes now, are Jane’s desperate tussles with the English language. Here are a few of her prize remarks: “Time wounds all heels.” “Familiarity breeds attempts.” “I slept like a cop.” “I’m no shrieking violet.” “He lives by the sweat of his frau.” “It’s the gossip truth.”

In January 1940 a columnist in New York described a parlor game called “Mumbled Jottoes” which was based on taking a well-known saying or phrase and altering it by switching the initial sounds or letters of two words. Thus, “Jumbled Mottoes” was transformed into “Mumbled Jottoes”. A game participant would construct an altered phrase together with a short illustrative tale; the other players would attempt to guess the phrase. The article presented an example: [11] 1940 January 22, Seattle Daily Times, New York by Dale Harrison, Quote Page 6, Column 4, Seattle, Washington. (GenealogyBank)

“Henry Luce, the publisher of Time Magazine, went to a cocktail party. Arriving, he was disgusted to find that nearly everyone present was a heel. He stood it for awhile and finally whipped out a knife and began slashing all the heels, wounding them.” The answer to that one is: “Time wounds all heels.”

Also, in January 1940 the powerful Hollywood columnist Hedda Hopper attributed the expression to a notable dance instructor: [12] 1940 January 31, San Francisco Chronicle, Stage by Hedda Hopper, Quote Page 9, Column 2, San Francisco, California. (GenealogyBank)

Arthur Murray switches the old proverb to fit Hollywood: “Time wounds all heels!”

In February 1940 a review of the movie “I Take This Woman” mentioned that the joke was included in the dialog. The main stars were Spencer Tracy and Hedy Lamarr, but the line was spoken by supporting actress Verree Teasdale: [13] 1940 February 11, Sunday Times-Advertiser (Trenton Evening Times), Section 3, Hollywood Correspondent’s Film Impressions by Robbin Coons, Quote Page 7, Column 2, Trenton, New Jersey. … Continue reading

Enough good lines ( “Time wounds all heels!” ) to compensate for some incredible cliches (“Did I remember to tell you I adore you?”)—and Tracy, with the gorgeous Lamarr, making the whole thing almost believable.

The Marx Brother’s film “Go West” was released in December 1940, but some of the jokes were known in advance. A newspaper article published in August correctly stated that Groucho Marx was planning to employ the pun: [14] 1940 August 29, Buffalo-Courier Express, Hollywood by John Chapman, Quote Page 9, Column 8, Buffalo, New York. (Old Fulton)

A Groucho Marx line from the picture-in-the-making, Go West: “Time wounds all heels.” As usual, the Marx Brothers’ gags for the film have been audience-tested on personal appearance tours. “It’s the only way,” says Groucho, “but I’m not going to do it any more. Too tough a grind. It was all right when I was fourteen, but not now.”

After “Go West” was released a columnist noted perspicaciously that claimants to the jest were numerous: [15] 1940 December 16, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, Hollywood by Hugh Dixon, Quote Page 25, Column 4, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. (Google News Archive)

The line forms to the left for those who claim they said Groucho Marx’ line in “Go West”— “time wounds all heels” —first.

In January 1941 a journalist spoke to Jane Ace and told her that the pun she spoke was sometimes ascribed to Rudy Vallée. She asserted that the line was crafted by her and not by Vallée or her husband: [16] 1941 January 18, Long Island Daily Press, Viewing Radio With Jack Shafer, Quote Page 8, Column 4, Jamaica, New York. (Old Fulton)

Goodman Ace writes the Easy Aces scripts, but Jane contributes an occasional idea and many a malaprop for which her part is famous. The following are her favorites, as I got them direct from her one day at Radio City: . . . “Time wounds all heels.” I remember telling Jane Ace that Rudy Vallee is credited with introducing the last gem, but Jane insists that the “Time wounds all heels” line is hers as an original.

In April 1942 the prolific award-winning horror and fantasy writer Robert Bloch published a short story in “Fantastic Adventures” which used the jest as its title: [17] 1942 April, Fantastic Adventures, Volume 4, Number 4, Time Wounds All Heels by Robert Bloch, (Short Story) Start Page 192, Quote Page 192, Ziff-Davis Publishing Company, Chicago, Illinois. (Unz)

Time Wounds All Heels by Robert Bloch, pages 192 to 205

In 1951 Margaret Case Harriman who was the daughter of Frank Case published “The Vicious Circle: The Story of the Algonquin Round Table”. She believed that her father had originated the comical expression: [18] 1951, The Vicious Circle: The Story of the Algonquin Round Table by Margaret Case Harriman, Quote Page 36, Rinehart & Co., New York. (Verified on paper)

Father never considered himself a wit, and this gave him an enchanting air of surprise whenever he said something really good. He said so many good things that most of them have passed into legend—unfortunately uncredited. The now-famous, “Time wounds all heels” was his; and the comment on a too-talkative woman, “When you ask her a question it’s like taking your finger out of the dike.”

In 1976 a syndicated column called “Quote-Unquote: What people are saying” ascribed the quip to the famous musician John Lennon: [19] 1976 August 16, Corsicana Daily Sun, Quote-Unquote: What people are saying (Newspaper Enterprise Association), Quote Page 2B, Column 3, Corsicana, Texas. (Newspapers_com)

“I have no grudges because in the end, time wounds all heels .” — John Lennon answering whether he held any enmity for the Nixon administration which pushed for the ex-Beatle’s deportation from the United States.

The iconic advice-giver Ann Landers (Eppie Lederer) used the expression multiple times over a period of decades in her widely-syndicated column. In fact, a 1979 compilation of quotations assigned the word play to Landers. [20] 1979, The Book of Quotes, Compiled by Barbara Rowes, Quote Page 169, A Sunrise Book: E. P. Dutton, New York. (Verified on paper) The following passage appeared in a 1963 column: [21] 1963 June 27, Aberdeen American News (Aberdeen Daily News), Your Problems by Ann Landers, Quote Page 9, Column 2, Aberdeen, South Dakota. (GenealogyBank)

CONFIDENTIAL to heartsick: Time wounds all heels and he’ll get his. Don’t spend another minute thinking about how to get even.

In conclusion, QI would tentatively credit Marshall Reid with formulating this adage based on the 1934 citation. Interestingly, it is possible that the saying was constructed independently on multiple occasions. Current knowledge is incomplete, and this article presents a snapshot.

Frank Case used the quip during a 1937 radio broadcast, and he indicated in his memoir that he believed he was the originator. It is conceivable that Case had been using the expression for years. But the 1934 evidence retains evidentiary precedence.

Jane Ace used the pun during the “Easy Aces” radio show, but the exact date of the episode was uncertain to QI . The show began in 1930; hence, she may have spoken it before 1934. The joke may have been scripted by Jane Ace or Goodman Ace either individually or collaboratively.

Groucho Marx used the joke in “Go West” in 1940, and he was an important locus for its popularization. Frank Case’s book and its advertising campaign also popularized the pun; as did Jane Ace’s humorous radio character.

Image Notes: Publicity photo of Jane and Goodman Ace for the radio show “Easy Aces”. Image of foot bones from “Science of Dress” via Wikimedia Commons.

(Great thanks to Jeffrey Guterman, Jenni, and Edward Banatt whose tweets on this topic led QI to formulate this question and share this exploration. Great thanks to Frank Solensky who told QI about the Rudy Vallée radio broadcast dated June 17, 1937 during which Frank Case used the jest. Solensky provided a link to a webpage with an MP3 audio file of the broadcast, so QI could verify Case’s statement.)

Update History: On December 11, 2019 the 1976 citation was added.

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Time Heals All Wounds

Time heals all wounds. At least that's what people say. Personally, I have a different opinion. There are some wounds that never quite heal. Some things that, when brought up, still make tears sting your eyes and all of the emotions rush back to you. Anger, depression, remorse. You feel as if it had just happened again. Some things you just don't get over. Time is not a factor. “What about your mother?” The question comes up all the time. Whether it's about her job, how old she is, or how strict she is at home, the question never fails to catch me off guard. I have to sit and think a minute. Should I tell them? Do I want them to know? No. I don't want to tell them. I don't want them to know. It's the only way I can avoid their sympathetic stares and their “I'm sorrys.” I lie. “She's a stay-at-home mom,” or “She's forty-nine,” or “ She's pretty laid back.” I can't look them in the eyes as I talk. I keep my head down wondering if they might understand why I lied. Would they question my answer? Nobody questioned. My lie remained my secret. Nobody will find out. Not a soul. While they continue about their own embarrassing mothers and their early curfews, I sink out of the conversation as inconspicuously as I can. It's easier to avoid the topic. To act like she's still here with me. It's easier than saying she died, and having to relive it in my mind is almost torture. I see her smiling face. The image fades to her funeral. A simple question reminding me yet again that that's all I have left of my mother. Just a memory of her smile. The wound reopens and I feel the pain tearing me apart, and I have to pull myself together to live another day. Every time I ask myself the same question, Why does it still hurts so much after all of these years? The answer remains a mystery that I don't think I'll ever understand. Time heals all wounds? Not so much.

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Leah Royden

Does Time Really Heal All Wounds?

There’s truth in plenty of old sayings, but should we still be using this one.

Posted May 31, 2019 | Reviewed by Matt Huston

“Time heals all wounds.”

It’s one of the most unhelpful clichés you can pull out when speaking with a grieving person, right up there with "It’s all part of God’s plan," "They’re in a better place now," or any sentence beginning with “At least…”

Then again, there’s a bit of truth in plenty of unhelpful sayings—and research does attest to the healing nature of time. For most people, by 18 months post-loss, symptoms of acute grief — listlessness, pervasive sadness, lack of pleasure in life, anger , nightmares, insomnia , yearning, numbness, etc. — have generally greatly lessened in severity.

Most people.

And so, even though there’s some truth in the phrase, I disliked it when I was in the acute stage of grief — and I still dislike it today in my clinical work, but for different reasons. Here’s why:

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1. Sometimes things actually get worse before they get better.

Ask many people who have suffered a significant loss, and they’ll tell you that the initial shock and pain—while agonizing—wasn’t the most difficult time for them. That may come weeks or even months later, when the reality of life without a loved one begins to set in (and those who supported them through the early days of the loss take a step back). The sense that you can never, ever speak with this person again—never touch them, hear their voice, or feel the unique way you did with them—has begun to sink in.

We can even stretch out the metaphor of grief as a wound here: Horror and disbelief courses through you in the seconds after you receive a bad cut or break a bone, but the pain only sets in later, once the numbness of shock fades. Such is often the case with grief, too.

2. Even in the long run, time doesn’t actually improve matters for some people.

I have written before about those who suffer from "complicated grief" — people whose grief symptoms are still acute (or potentially even worse) 18 months out from a significant loss. They become "stuck" in mourning for a variety of reasons. For example:

  • Not wanting to accept the reality of the loss, because the feelings attached to it feel so overwhelming.
  • Denial that the loss has had such a powerful impact.
  • The intensity of the loss is compounded by traumatic circumstances — for example, if a death was violent or self-inflicted.
  • Not wanting to let go of the pain, because it feels like a betrayal or negation of the feelings they had for their lost loved one.
  • Not having a safe place (or more important, safe people) with whom to process the loss and renegotiate this new, forever-changed world.

3. Time goes really, really slowly when you’re hurting.

Ever notice how painfully slowly time moves when you’re sitting injured in a hospital? Or when you’ve got a migraine , and you’re waiting for the painkiller to kick in? The same rules apply when you’re in emotional agony.

"Time heals all wounds” is like a slap in the face when minutes feel like hours, hours feel like days, and the days, well ...

4. The days can all bleed together.

An autobiographical memory process called Overgeneral Memory Bias (OGM) has been found to play a role in grief, particularly grief that becomes prolonged. OGM is the tendency to view one’s past in terms of generalities, as opposed to specific events. This can result in feelings of hopelessness and an inability to imagine positive future experiences, since happy memories of the past are difficult to recall in detail.

5. Trauma is literally timeless.

As mentioned earlier, traumatic deaths are typically harder to heal from because of the way traumatic experiences are processed and stored as memories by the brain. When a traumatic memory surfaces — as they often do in the form of flashbacks, nightmares, or intrusive thoughts and images — as far as the brain is concerned, they are happening right now .

This can still be the case long after the triggering event has passed.

To recover from trauma, the brain has to learn to stay at least partially in the present experience — something that often requires therapeutic assistance in the form of group or individual counseling.

6. The "truth" of the statement, even when it is true, depends entirely on what you mean by "heal."

We’ve talked about the nature of time, but what about the nature of wounds ? What particular kind of wound is a major bereavement , and what would it look like when it heals? Are we talking a cut that heals completely? A nasty burn that will always look a bit mottled and weird? A deep gash that leaves an ugly scar? An amputation? I can't tell you the answer, because...

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7. Nobody can tell you what your unique experience of loss will be like.

We all have an idea of how grieving goes, and unless we have our own experiences, they’re often a mishmash of assumptions gathered from movies, pop culture, and anecdotes. Often these simply involve lots of crying. It’s rare to see an accurate representation of angry grief or numb grief, but they’re very common experiences, too. Even when we have our own experiences, they may not be that useful when we’re attempting to comfort someone else. Because although all grief shares some key similarities — it hurts — each individual person’s grief is different.

So time may, indeed, heal you, and probably will, even if it's not a straight road. But what that healing will look like, how long it will take, and what you will think and feel and do and experience along the way, nobody can say. Your grief is yours, and nobody can tell you what will happen. I imagine that is both a comforting and disconcerting thought.

But then again, perhaps not.

After all, I cannot speak for you.

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Jordan A. H., & Litz, B. T. (2014). Prolonged Grief Disorder: Diagnostic, assessment, and treatment considerations. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice 45(3), 180-187. doi:10.1037/a0036836

Shear, K., Frank, E., Houck, P. R., & Reynolds, C. F. (2005). Treatment of complicated grief: A randomized controlled trial. JAMA, 293(21), 2601-2608. doi:10.1001/jama.293.21.2601

Solomon, C. G., & Shear, M. K. (2015). Complicated grief. The New England Journal of Medicine, 372(2), 153-160. Retrieved from http://ezproxy.aut.ac.nz/login?url=http://search.proquest.com/docview/1…

Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The body keeps the score (Apple iBooks version). London, England: Penguin Books Ltd.

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Leah Royden is a writer and registered psychotherapist who provides talk therapy for a range of issues including grief, addiction, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.

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Time heals all wounds? HRM and bereavement in the workplace

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By  Diane M. Bergeron Center for Creative Leadership

Over the past two years, there have been many popular press articles about grief in the workplace. Despite this recent COVID-19-related attention, bereavement (i.e., the reaction to a loss by death) has always been a universal human experience. The intention of this short concept statement is to bring attention to and spur HRM research efforts on bereavement in the workplace. Part of the challenge in dealing with bereavement is the  empathy-efficiency paradox – the perception that workplace goals often conflict with the needs of bereaved employees. After providing an overview of bereavement, I explain how this potential paradox can make bereavement more difficult – not only for bereaved employees, but for managers and coworkers as well – with formal policies and practices unintentionally disenfranchising grief. I also suggest some ways to address this perceived paradox. Subsequently, several generative research directions are suggested. Given the large role that HRM plays in making the workplace more humane, bereavement seems like a topic worthy of our research attention.

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Does Time Really Heal All Wounds

The sample essay on Time Heals Essay deals with a framework of research-based facts, approaches, and arguments concerning this theme. To see the essay’s introduction, body paragraphs and conclusion, read on.

Experiencing the loss of a loved one can make you feel empty inside, with an incomplete feeling that the world will never be the same again, and nothing will heal your pain. This loss could be someone who has passed away or someone who has become absent from your life.

Either way people cope with loss or change in many different ways and “A Rose for Emily” or “Some Memories of My Father” are two prime examples. These essays remind us what it feels like to have someone you love depart from your life .

The feeling of losing someone you love no matter the situation can make you feel discombobulated, eccentric, saddened, confused, and filled with unanswered questions or vague thoughts and memories. Furthermore, both stories focus on with how dealing with loss or change sometimes causes psychotic thoughts and actions and many other psychological issues that can affect everyone around you.

Together these stories symbolize the social changes in our society and community and the radical changes to tradition.

These stories are given from the narrators view point and we receive their opinions and feelings about not only the main characters but the events that are happening in their community. In Faulkner’s, “A Rose for Emily”, the story has a very gothic and grim setting to it.

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“ Very organized ,I enjoyed and Loved every bit of our professional interaction ”

The narrator describes how this particular town has a moody and forbidding atmosphere; a crumbling old mansion; and decay, putrefaction, and grotesquerie.

Why Does Time Heal All Wounds

Faulkner’s work uses the gripping elements to highlight an individual’s struggle against an oppressive society that is undergoing rapid change. A prime example the narrator express is, “Only Miss Emily’s house was left, lifting its stubborn and coquettish decay above the cotton wagons and the gasoline pumps-an eyesore among eyesores. ” (Section 1. 2) It is obvious that the narrator does not approve of Miss Emily’s surrounding area. It is quite possible the narrator is dissatisfied with everyone in the town, perhaps this particular period in American history.

The second paragraph of the first section the story gives clues we need to find out what the story is saying about America. The story shows how difficult it was for southern people to deal with the new America (post slavery) represented by the Emancipation Proclamation. In comparison, the short story “Some Memories of My Father”, is more modern day and have a hint of familiarity and nostalgia we all have witnessed and/or experience in our community one way or the other.

Like many children who are abandoned by a loved one they tend to create memories or moments. When his father disappears along with several other men from their blue-collar Detroit neighborhood, sixteen-year-old Michael Smolij witnesses the effects of large-scale abandonment on the community’s wives and mothers. Our society more now than ever perhaps have seen a rapid decline of fathers in the household and many women left to be both mother and father to their children.

The writer, Bakopoulos shares his experience with the loss of his father and what type of impact it made on his community. In the story, the writer lets us know that things in the community have changed and he not only missed his father but the way things used to be. “Yes, it’s true that I miss my father, but in a larger sense, I missed all the fathers. ” (Need section from the story) He describes the things he saw as he drove past. ‘Neighborhoods like this could have been a million miles away from us.

” This short excerpt of the actual book allows the reader know that there is a mass epidemic of fathers exiting the home which leaves a lot of heartache and pain and many unanswered questions such as why? Which is almost the same feeling one experiences one a loved one passes away. Was it the tough labor of working that caused this, mental illness from war, lack of a role model in the home for them, or some under lying child hood demons caused these men to abandoned their responsibilities? This is still a question we are asking today in 2013.

Well whatever it is, it made the writer say, “Now the only thing that remains: When I was sixteen, my father went to the moon. ” (Need section from the story) Secondly, it is adequate to say that both stories have similar literary styles. Both uses flashback and foreshadowing. You can also contrast the different styles as well. In “A Rose for Emily” the story is not in conventional order and chronologically complex. Emily’s life is portrayed through a series flashbacks starting with a scene from her funeral.

From there the story is told over a course of many decades which also intertwines with the first point that was made which was the changes that were happening in society and in the community. The foreshadowing in this story is very important and ties in very closely with the complexity of the chronological order of events that take place. Because there are so much back and forth unchronological methods presented in this story there is not proper description of the sequence of events that allows the reader to know what ever happened to Homer or her refusal to let her father be buried?

We know about odor, poison, and disappearance. It is up to the reader to figure out Emily buys poison, Homer disappears, and there is a mysterious odor. I believe Faulkner wanted this to be as less obvious as possible in order to have the reader truly understand the complexity of the characters and this period in history. In the second story, “Some Memories of My Father”, the flashbacks are definitely in chronological in order. In fact, the author is describing to the reader moments he had written down in his notebook.

He goes to stay, “I listed a few memories I had in a notebook, afraid they might leave me”. From age three to sixteen he describes an expert from his childhood and a memory he had of his father. To the reader, the foreshadowing may seem very obvious because each year it seems things with his father seemed to get more disturbing but when he reached at sixteen and the story ends with “Now the only thing remains: When I was sixteen, my father went to the moon. ” This leaves the reader stunned and confused and open to interpret the statement in many ways.

Some may assume he died or an insane asylum. The writer leaves you at the edge of the cliff and open to believe whatever you want because all along he is trying to hold on to the few memories he have even if his father was just a vague piece of it. In summary, both stories have many similarities and differences that can be compared and contrasted. I think the most obvious conclusions from both stories is that although losing a loved is very difficult time does heal all wounds?

Also, both stories are about the impossible things we believe because the truth may simply be too hard to deal with. We saw this first hand from Emily and have difficulty the excepting the loss of her father and with Michael in excepting his father is ill and not coming back as he is “gone to the moon”. Both characters have gone through major changes in our society and dealt with them in their own form and fashion. John F. Kennedy once said, “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. ” (Kennedy, 1963)

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